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Know Your Value

Know Your ValueDo you know your value?  If you don’t, then don’t expect someone else to see it for you. As Rupaul famously asks, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”  If you’re a single gay man looking for love, then you need to start by finding love inside of yourself.
There are things that we want in life – a Continue Reading

Drop Your Armor And Admit To Wanting Love This Valentine’s

Admit To Love On ValentinesI’ve noticed a fair share of single gay men who turn up their noses at the thought of finding love.  These men are self-proclaimed “bitter and jaded queens” who don’t subscribe to the “fantasies” of finding a true love and living happily ever after.  Yet after digging deeper into their feelings, I realize that they have just given up on love, Continue Reading

Dealing With Triggers Of Your Ex

Dealing With Triggers Of ExIt’s inevitable. While you are moving through your breakup, you will have moments when memories of your ex will be triggered. It could happen when you are listening to a song that you first heard with him, or driving by the exit to his old neighborhood, or thumbing through your profile pics on Facebook.  Whatever the case, these “triggers” can Continue Reading

Loneliness Only Brings More Loneliness

Loneliness Brings More LonelinessThere are many reasons why gay men want a relationship. Some gay men are looking for fun and adventure. Some are looking for security (financial or emotional).  Others are looking for monogamous sex.  But for many gay men, the driving reason behind wanting a relationship…is to not feel lonely.
Despite the advances in communication we have Continue Reading

Blurred Lines

Blurred LinesWhen it comes to other gay men, there are three relationship buckets that we tend to stick people in:  1) completely platonic friends, 2) friends with benefits or “f*ck buddy”, 3) romantic / intimate boyfriend.  These buckets exist to help define our relationship to the other person, and provide some context to it.  The bucket also gives you Continue Reading

Why Do You Push Away Love?

Push Away LoveThey say that when you are truly ready for love, it will come your way.  I happen to believe that this is true.  No…I take that back…I KNOW that this is true.  The Law of Attraction states that “like must always attract like.”  If you want love, but are not finding it, then the question is Why?  What is holding you back from attracting Continue Reading

The Lost Art Of A Phone Call

The strangest thing happened to me the other day. I met this guy a few days before and was immediately attracted to him. So I struck up conversation, we exchanged phone numbers, and agreed that we should meet up sometime soon for coffee. The next day, I text him to say hello and to see when he was free. He said he didn’t have any plans Continue Reading